69 Ways to Break Up

How to Break Up

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THINK Why You WANT IT

"If you are simply upset with your partner, you should consider talking about what upset you and focus on resolving it, rather than ending the relationship."

Tips: 1    “If you are simply upset with your partner, you should consider talking about what upset you and focus on resolving it, rather than ending the relationship.”

 

Notice THE CHANGES

Tips: 2 "If you discuss with your partner about the issue which forcing you to break up and your partner can't realize that after a long conversation the things are same as the before then you should determine it to go for BREAK UP”

Tips: 2    “If you discuss with your partner about the issue which forcing you to break up and your partner can’t realize that after a long conversation the things are same as the before then you should determine it to go for BREAK UP”

BREAK UP is not a GAME

Tips: 3 "Please remember it's not a game, try to magnify your problems with your partner if you face that the relation is hurting, betraying or you feeling unsatisfied then you may approach for it"

Tips: 3    “Please remember it’s not a game, try to magnify your problems with your partner if you face that the relation is hurting, betraying or you feeling unsatisfied then you may approach for it”

BE Prepared with ANSWERS

Tips: 4 "At the point of break up time, your partner must ask you several questions related to it but at that moment you have to be prepared well to answer those questions but be polite on that time"

Tips: 4    “At the point of break up time, your partner must ask you several questions related to it but at that moment you have to be prepared well to answer those questions but be polite on that time”

BEFORE the FINAL Break UP Talks

Tips: 5 "Do your best to articulate the reasons you are breaking up. If you have trouble remembering examples during emotional discussions or arguments, write your reasons down in advance. It may help to talk this over with someone you trust, or with a counselor."

Tips: 5    “Do your best to articulate the reasons you are breaking up. If you have trouble remembering examples during emotional discussions or arguments, write your reasons down in advance. It may help to talk this over with someone you trust, or with a counselor.”

PLAN for a duration of BREAK UP

Tips: 6 "Plan for the break up discussion (final) timing, it should not be last long otherwise it would create some unwanted feelings in both partners mind."

Tips: 6    “Plan for the break up discussion (final) timing, it should not be last long otherwise it would create some unwanted feelings in both partners mind.”

MEASURE and Set THE TIME

Tips: 7 "Expect to spend at least one hour breaking up, and longer if the relationship lasted a year or more. It'll be much easier for you to stick to your guns if the conversation doesn't last long."

Tips: 7    “Expect to spend at least one hour breaking up, and longer if the relationship lasted a year or more. It’ll be much easier for you to stick to your guns if the conversation doesn’t last long.”

ARRANGE The LOCATION

Tips: 8 "You may even want to arrange an appointment with a friend in a neutral location so that you can say I’m supposed to meet John/Jane at the restaurant in fifteen minutes, so I have to go now."

Tips: 8    “You may even want to arrange an appointment with a friend in a neutral location so that you can say I’m supposed to meet John/Jane at the restaurant in fifteen minutes, so I have to go now.”

BREAK UP in PERSON

Tips: 9 "It is easier to break up with someone if you don't have to look the person in the eye, but it can also be interpreted as cruel and cowardly."

Tips: 9    “It is easier to break up with someone if you don’t have to look the person in the eye, but it can also be interpreted as cruel and cowardly.”

BREAK UP Media and ACT

Tips: 10 "Unless you are a long distance away and choose not to wait until you see the person again, don't break up by phone, e-mail, or through an instant messenger system. And don't even think about breaking up with someone by pulling a disappearing act, even if it's just by suddenly eliminating contact with the person. The lack of closure can be psychologically damaging."

Tips: 10    “Unless you are a long distance away and choose not to wait until you see the person again, don’t break up by phone, e-mail, or through an instant messenger system. And don’t even think about breaking up with someone by pulling a disappearing act, even if it’s just by suddenly eliminating contact with the person.  The lack of closure can be psychologically damaging.”

KEEP it PRIVATE

Tips: 11 "If you don't live together, break the news at his/her home and in private. They'll want to feel safe enough to respond emotionally--no one wants to be broken up with in public or near family and friends, and risk bursting into tears, or be forced to bottle up all those emotions."

Tips: 11    “If you don’t live together, break the news at his/her home and in private. They’ll want to feel safe enough to respond emotionally–no one wants to be broken up with in public or near family and friends, and risk bursting into tears, or be forced to bottle up all those emotions.”

EXIT is EASY

Tips: 12 "If you say you want to break up and do conversation in your partner’s house then it's a safe way to leave the place very easily unless it's very hard where you are the host and your partner is the guest"

Tips: 12    “If you say you want to break up and do conversation in your partner’s house then it’s a safe way to leave the place very easily unless it’s very hard where you are the host and your partner is the guest”

PROBLEMATIC and Stressful ISSUE

Tips: 13 "If you live together, breaking-up will be particularly problematic and stressful; you should have a place where you can stay until the person you've broken up with digests the big change. You can either move all of your stuff while they're not home and then break up when they come home and notice, or break up and leave with some of your things with the intention to come back when things have calmed down to get the rest of your belongings. Either way will be very difficult for the other person, but only you know what's best for your situation."

Tips: 13    “If you live together, breaking-up will be particularly problematic and stressful; you should have a place where you can stay until the person you’ve broken up with digests the big change.     You can either move all of your stuff while they’re not home and then break up when they come home and notice, or break up and leave with some of your things with the intention to come back when things have calmed down to get the rest of your belongings.    Either way will be very difficult for the other person, but only you know what’s best for your situation.”

BREAK UP Calmly

Tips: 14 "If you say the dreaded words we need to talk, your partner will immediately know what's going on, and that's not a bad thing. You don't want to blurt out we need to break up out of the blue, or worse, when you're in an argument. You need to approach the whole thing calmly and peacefully - It's the safest and nice way to end up"

Tips: 14    “If you say the dreaded words we need to talk, your partner will immediately know what’s going on, and that’s not a bad thing. You don’t want to blurt out we need to break up out of the blue, or worse, when you’re in an argument. You need to approach the whole thing calmly and peacefully – It’s the safest and nice way to end up”

APPROACH TO Questioning

Tips: 15 "He or she will want to know why, and whether there was anything he or she could have done to prevent the breakup. Answer the questions as honestly as possible."

Tips: 15    “He or she will want to know why, and whether there was anything he or she could have done to prevent the breakup. Answer the questions as honestly as possible.”

WHAT Cry Can MAKE YOU?

Tips: 16 "The other person will likely be upset, and it will show. You can comfort him or her, but don't allow yourself to be manipulated into changing your decision."

Tips: 16    “The other person will likely be upset, and it will show. You can comfort him or her, but don’t allow yourself to be manipulated into changing your decision.”

ARGUMENTS and APPROACHES

Tips: 17 "He or she may dispute anything you've said during the breakup, including examples you used in your reasons for breaking up. Don't get dragged into a fight, and don't split hairs. Let your partner know that arguing isn't going to change your decision."

Tips: 17    “He or she may dispute anything you’ve said during the breakup, including examples you used in your reasons for breaking up. Don’t get dragged into a fight, and don’t split hairs. Let your partner know that arguing isn’t going to change your decision.”

BARGAINING or Begging

Tips: 18 "He or she may offer to change, or to do things differently in order to preserve the relationship. If the person didn't change when you've discussed your problems in the past, it is too late to expect him or her to truly change now."

Tips: 18    “He or she may offer to change, or to do things differently in order to preserve the relationship. If the person didn’t change when you’ve discussed your problems in the past, it is too late to expect him or her to truly change now.”

EMOTIONAL or PHYSICAL Blackmail

Tips: 19 "Whether it's as simple as saying You'll never find anyone as good as me or as scary as saying I'll make you regret this , he or she is usually just trying to make himself or herself feel better. Threats of physical harm, however, are serious and should not be ignored. If you feel that your safety is at risk, stay calm and leave quickly."

Tips: 19    “Whether it’s as simple as saying  You’ll never find anyone as good as me  or as scary as saying  I’ll make you regret this , he or she is usually just trying to make himself or herself feel better. Threats of physical harm, however, are serious and should not be ignored. If you feel that your safety is at risk, stay calm and leave quickly.”

AVOID and MAINTAIN Distance

Tips: 20 "Distance yourself. It'll be difficult, but don't call them, don't go places where you know they frequent, and make yourself scarce. Take the time to reflect on your situation and learn more about yourself."

Tips: 20    “Distance yourself. It’ll be difficult, but don’t call them, don’t go places where you know they frequent, and make yourself scarce. Take the time to reflect on your situation and learn more about yourself.”

TIME TO RESUME after BREAK UP

21 "Suppose, you broken up with your partner but you still feeling to him or her and dissatisfied as well even more than the past. Your ex may try to get in touch, but wait a while (some people suggest six months) before resuming contact, if at all. You felt close to this person at one point in your life, and you will probably always have a soft spot for him or her, you should rebuild the relation again, none can live without a partner in this life”

Tips: 21    “Suppose, you broken up with your partner but you still feeling to him or her and dissatisfied as well even more than the past. Your ex may try to get in touch, but wait a while (some people suggest six months) before resuming contact, if at all. You felt close to this person at one point in your life, and you will probably always have a soft spot for him or her, you should rebuild the relation again, none can live without a partner in this life”

REALIZE its NORMAL

Tips: 22 "Breaking up is difficult - but like it or not, this is a normal part of teenage and adult life, and as much as it is painful, it is normal. We all have heartbreak; it hurts- but we all survive it, and you (and your ex) will too. Unless you treat it as a normal part of life you can't take the final decision of breaking up with your partner"

Tips: 22    “Breaking up is difficult – but like it or not, this is a normal part of teenage and adult life, and as much as it is painful, it is normal. We all have heartbreak; it hurts- but we all survive it, and you (and your ex) will too. Unless you treat it as a normal part of life you can’t take the final decision of breaking up with your partner”

DO IT NOW- Express Yourself

Tips: 23 "If you are sure you want to break up with somebody, it is best done sooner rather than later. However, if your partner has had a particularly bad day already, you may want to consider waiting for a better moment. Breaking up with them when they are already down will make the break-up much harder for both of you."

Tips: 23    “If you are sure you want to break up with somebody, it is best done sooner rather than later. However, if your partner has had a particularly bad day already, you may want to consider waiting for a better moment. Breaking up with them when they are already down will make the break-up much harder for both of you.”

MAKE YOUR Statement Clear

Tips: 24 "HONESTY is the best policy but if you don't want to pick those points of partner which is hurting you from many years or hours or days then you can't make up your mind clearly to set the relation to be broken up soon or later. It's time to make your statement clear about it and go for it"

Tips: 24    “HONESTY is the best policy but if you don’t want to pick those points of partner which is hurting you from many years or hours or days then you can’t make up your mind clearly to set the relation to be broken up soon or later. It’s time to make your statement clear about it and go for it”

BREAK UP The HEAT of The Moment

Tips: 25 "Never break up in the heat of the moment. If the relationship is already broken beyond repair, that won't change once the argument is over and the anger has passed. Break up with your both calm and can talk it over peacefully."

Tips: 25    “Never break up in the heat of the moment. If the relationship is already broken beyond repair, that won’t change once the argument is over and the anger has passed. Break up with your both calm and can talk it over peacefully.”

THREATS are not SOLUTIONS

Tips: 26 "If you have problems or concerns, work through them or break up. Threats will only make a relationship worse and their impact tends to diminish with repeated use."

Tips: 26    “If you have problems or concerns, work through them or break up. Threats will only make a relationship worse and their impact tends to diminish with repeated use.”

PICK An Appropriate Place

Tips: 27 "The less public, the better. Don't do it in a place where the person on the receiving end is going to feel more vulnerable than necessary; however, beware of an overly remote situation in case your ex loses control and resorts to violence."

Tips: 27    “The less public, the better. Don’t do it in a place where the person on the receiving end is going to feel more vulnerable than necessary; however, beware of an overly remote situation in case your ex loses control and resorts to violence.”

CHOOSE The RIGHT Time

Tips: 28 "Avoid holidays and special occasions like birthdays and anniversaries at all costs. Do you really want you're ex remembering your insensitivity every time that day rolls around?"

Tips: 28    “Avoid holidays and special occasions like birthdays and anniversaries at all costs. Do you really want you’re ex remembering your insensitivity every time that day rolls around?”

KEEP YOUR EMOTIONS in Check

Tips: 29 "Don't seem too happy about the breakup: you'll come off as mean-spirited. Just be kind, caring, and considerate."

Tips: 29    “Don’t seem too happy about the breakup: you’ll come off as mean-spirited. Just be kind, caring, and considerate.”

MAKE SURE You ARE RIGHT

Tips: 30 "Make sure that you are making the right decision. Because one day, they might not want to get back together depending on their personality or even you will be the more sufferer in future"

Tips: 30    “Make sure that you are making the right decision. Because one day, they might not want to get back together depending on their personality or even you will be the more sufferer in future”

MAKE A LIST

Tips: 31 "Make a list with all the reasons why you want to break up and write a possible solution beside it and then only decide how you want to proceed with your break up issue"

Tips: 31    “Make a list with all the reasons why you want to break up and write a possible solution beside it and then only decide how you want to proceed with your break up issue”

REMEMBER YOUR GOAL

Tips: 32 "Remember, the goal is not to make the other person understand, he/she will not, no matter what you say. Understanding will not come before a period of time. Your goal is to give the feeling of an ending and a goodbye."

Tips: 32    “Remember, the goal is not to make the other person understand, he/she will not, no matter what you say.    Understanding will not come before a period of time. Your goal is to give the feeling of an ending and a goodbye.”

BE GENTLE and REALISTIC

Tips: 33 "Breaking up is a very fragile issue to deal with because it involves a lot of emotions and attachment, so be gentle and sensitive when you talk to your partner about it. Do not start up an argument or point fingers. It is not your partner's fault that you are no longer interested and it is not your fault either. Sometimes people just grow apart and end up having too many differences; it takes two to get in and out of relationships."

Tips: 33    “Breaking up is a very fragile issue to deal with because it involves a lot of emotions and attachment, so be gentle and sensitive when you talk to your partner about it.    Do not start up an argument or point fingers. It is not your partner’s fault that you are no longer interested and it is not your fault either. Sometimes people just grow apart and end up having too many differences; it takes two to get in and out of relationships.”

BE SERIOUS and TAKE IT SERIOUSLY

Tips: 34 "If you decide that you longer wish to continue the romantic relationship, then take it seriously. Do not obsess about what new romances your ex-partner may soon be involved in. Focus on yourself and move on."

Tips: 34    “If you decide that you longer wish to continue the romantic relationship, then take it seriously. Do not obsess about what new romances your ex-partner may soon be involved in. Focus on yourself and move on.”

DO NOT PANIC

Tips: 35 "Try your very best not to go hysterical when your partner says he or she wants to break up. Before getting defensive and worked up, stay calm and listen to what is being said and what reasons are being given."

Tips: 35    “Try your very best not to go hysterical when your partner says he or she wants to break up. Before getting defensive and worked up, stay calm and listen to what is being said and what reasons are being given.”

AVOID Attacking

Tips: 36 "You may not like what is being said, but it will help or better the situation of you attack with anger. The only thing that will happen when you get defensive and angry, is worsen the break up and end it on a more painful term. If you feel that you cannot control your anger then tell your partner that you understand he or she wishes to break up."

Tips: 36    “You may not like what is being said, but it will help or better the situation of you attack with anger. The only thing that will happen when you get defensive and angry, is worsen the break up and end it on a more painful term. If you feel that you cannot control your anger then tell your partner that you understand he or she wishes to break up.”

ACCEPT and RESPECT

Tips: 37 "It could very well be that although your partner wanted to break up, you still feel you should be together. This is normal after growing an emotional attachment to someone. However, you must accept and respect the fact that you are now broken up."

Tips: 37    “It could very well be that although your partner wanted to break up, you still feel you should be together. This is normal after growing an emotional attachment to someone. However, you must accept and respect the fact that you are now broken up.”

DON’T allow to build A FALSE HOPE

Tips: 38 "Don't suggest you two can remain friends if you have no intention of doing so. Using this line is a cop out and will only serve to give your partner false hope. Break up means you have to stay or go away from your partner's life"

Tips: 38    “Don’t suggest you two can remain friends if you have no intention of doing so. Using this line is a cop out and will only serve to give your partner false hope. Break up means you have to stay or go away from your partner’s life”

Acknowledge the BREAK UP

Tips: 39 "Don't suggest you two can remain friends if you have no intention of doing so. Using this line is a cop out and will only serve to give your partner false hope."

Tips: 39    “Don’t suggest you two can remain friends if you have no intention of doing so. Using this line is a cop out and will only serve to give your partner false hope.”

Don’t DELAY the Inevitable.

Tips: 40 "Once you decide to break up with your partner, immediately think about how, when and where you will take action. Do it as fast as you can but depending on the situations of course"

Tips: 40    “Once you decide to break up with your partner, immediately think about how, when and where you will take action. Do it as fast as you can but depending on the situations of course”

DON’T USE 3rd PARTY

Tips: 41 "Make sure you're the one who personally delivers the news. Don't give a third party the opportunity to tell your partner that you want to break up before you have the chance to discuss the matter alone."

Tips: 41    “Make sure you’re the one who personally delivers the news. Don’t give a third party the opportunity to tell your partner that you want to break up before you have the chance to discuss the matter alone.”

REMIND YOUR Partner

Tips: 42 "Remind your partner that you'll never forget the positive qualities in your relationship, but emphasize that you're ready to move on with your own life."

Tips: 42    “Remind your partner that you’ll never forget the positive qualities in your relationship, but emphasize that you’re ready to move on with your own life.”

MAKE A PATH

Tips: 43 "Try to consult both of you to find out the separate ways of living and how you want to stay in your life and what you want to do in future. Allow him/her to express his/her feelings about it. Make sure you both choose a different path for both of you"

Tips: 43    “Try to consult both of you to find out the separate ways of living and how you want to stay in your life and what you want to do in future. Allow him/her to express his/her feelings about it. Make sure you both choose a different path for both of you”

BODY LANGUAGE and Appearance

Tips: 44 "Remember to smile. Remember to pray. Remember that you will get through your break-up and try to keep yourself happy. When you get down, look up - it raises the spirits. If you get bummed out, work out. If you get stressed, play music, learn to paint, learn something new. Whatever, just don't sit there and stew in bad feelings."

Tips: 44    “Remember to smile.  Remember to pray.  Remember that you will get through your break-up and try to keep yourself happy. When you get down, look up – it raises the spirits. If you get bummed out, work out. If you get stressed, play music, learn to paint, learn something new. Whatever, just don’t sit there and stew in bad feelings.”

HOW TO VALIDATE IT

Tips: 45 "Let your partner know you understand their concerns. The only way to resolve a disagreement is to FIRST agree with the other party. This is true in this context, too. It is important to agree, and validate their concerns/reasons for wanting to end the relationship."

Tips: 45    “Let your partner know you understand their concerns.  The only way to resolve a disagreement is to FIRST agree with the other party.  This is true in this context, too.  It is important to agree, and validate their concerns/reasons for wanting to end the relationship.”

Communication as SUCCESSOR

Tips: 46 "Communicate that you would like to continue to date. If there are issues to work on, commit to a program of success, complete with goals, timelines, and objectives for success. Let him/her know that you still love them, even if he/she does not want to date. But Try to make your intentions clear"

Tips: 46    “Communicate that you would like to continue to date.  If there are issues to work on, commit to a program of success, complete with goals, timelines, and objectives for success.  Let him/her know that you still love them, even if he/she does not want to date. But Try to make your intentions clear”

Returning MATERIALS

Tips: 47 "Keep anything that they may want to have returned to them for over a week. Should you be unable to return everything at once, tell them where and when you will return their personal effects? If necessary, ask a mutual friend to act as intermediary."

Tips: 47    “Keep anything that they may want to have returned to them for over a week. Should you be unable to return everything at once, tell them where and when you will return their personal effects? If necessary, ask a mutual friend to act as intermediary.”

TRY TO BLAME

Tips: 48 "It's unwise to blaming your partner while EXIT but still if you see that your partner is questioning more and not in a position to accept that then you can Try to blame them for your decision, especially if it's none of their fault (i.e., you simply do not wish to keep seeing them in a romantic way)."

Tips: 48    “It’s unwise to blaming your partner while EXIT but still if you see that your partner is questioning more and not in a position to accept that then you can Try to blame them for your decision, especially if it’s none of their fault (i.e., you simply do not wish to keep seeing them in a romantic way).”

DON’T MAKE IT Big Scene

Tips: 49 "Being upset is understandable; howling, screaming blue murder and throwing crockery, on the other hand, is not. There is nothing - nothing - you can do or say that will make your partner change their mind if they are determined to break up with you. It's better to make it understandable rather than going against it"

Tips: 49    “Being upset is understandable; howling, screaming blue murder and throwing crockery, on the other hand, is not. There is nothing – nothing – you can do or say that will make your partner change their mind if they are determined to break up with you. It’s better to make it understandable rather than going against it”

MINIMIZE The PAIN

Tips: 50 "All you can do is try to minimize the pain. It's just like ripping off a sticking plaster - if you rip it off all in one go, the pain will be over quickly, but if you do it slowly, it will hurt for longer."

Tips: 50    “All you can do is try to minimize the pain. It’s just like ripping off a sticking plaster – if you rip it off all in one go, the pain will be over quickly, but if you do it slowly, it will hurt for longer.”

KINDNESS Doesn’t WORK

Tips: 51 "Remember however kind you may be, there is no way around the fact that this is going to hurt the other person. So please think it first before doing the break up with your partners"

Tips: 51    “Remember however kind you may be, there is no way around the fact that this is going to hurt the other person. So please think it first before doing the break up with your partners”

REFLECT YOUR Feelings

Tips: 52 "Reflect carefully on the reasons for your decision to break up and be prepared to justify them without blaming your partner. That's the smartest way to break up"

Tips: 52    “Reflect carefully on the reasons for your decision to break up and be prepared to justify them without blaming your partner. That’s the smartest way to break up”

EMOTIONS and Side Effects

Tips: 53 "It could be sadness, anger, or even a lack of emotion. Also, make sure you know for sure that this is the right choice; otherwise it's possible that you may be convinced to give them another chance."

Tips: 53    “It could be sadness, anger, or even a lack of emotion. Also, make sure you know for sure that this is the right choice; otherwise it’s possible that you may be convinced to give them another chance.”

DO NOT NEGOTIATE with FALSE Hopes

Tips: 54 "This isn't always recommended because you might not want to stay friends. In this case DO NOT say, you want to stay friends and give her false hope. That's even more painful for your side"

Tips: 54    “This isn’t always recommended because you might not want to stay friends. In this case DO NOT say, you want to stay friends and give her false hope. That’s even more painful for your side”

DON’T BE HURT

Tips: 55 "Don't be hurt if he/she starts to hate you. Sometimes, after the sad stage, he/she will enter the hate stage. Don't be hurt by this. Everyone heals in different ways; this is just his/her way of forgetting about their pain."

Tips: 55    “Don’t be hurt if he/she starts to hate you. Sometimes, after the sad stage, he/she will enter the hate stage. Don’t be hurt by this. Everyone heals in different ways; this is just his/her way of forgetting about their pain.”

NEVER SAY any CLASSIC LINES

Tips: 56 "Never say any of the classic break-up lines like it’s not you, it's me. These lines would not help to reduce the pain either of the both sides"

Tips: 56    “Never say any of the classic break-up lines like it’s not you, it’s me. These lines would not help to reduce the pain either of the both sides”

REMEMBER ALWAYS

Tips: 57 "If the relationship is indeed taken so far as to never become a friendship after the breakup, then stay away! Sometimes BREAK UP plays a vital role to be satisfied in life but that is not the actual solutions of life"

Tips: 57    “If the relationship is indeed taken so far as to never become a friendship after the breakup, then stay away! Sometimes BREAK UP plays a vital role to be satisfied in life but that is not the actual solutions of life”

QUICK TIPS

Tips: 58 "Stop the stress Get your power back Leave without guilt Do what's best for both you and your partner Break up as painlessly as possible Please don't ever look back once you broken up"

Tips: 58    “Stop the stress    Get your power back    Leave without guilt    Do what’s best for both you and your partner    Break up as painlessly as possible    Please don’t ever look back once you broken up”

SILENT BREAK UP

Tips: 59 "Tell her what your concerns are and ask for some time to reflect, though you don't have to mention a breakup. Maybe wait for 30 or 90 days and then move out. That will act as a buffer period in which you can both prepare yourself for the breakup."

Tips: 59    “Tell her what your concerns are and ask for some time to reflect, though you don’t have to mention a breakup. Maybe wait for 30 or 90 days and then move out. That will act as a buffer period in which you can both prepare yourself for the breakup.”

MUTUAL FRIENDS Help

Tips: 60 "Ask a close mutual friend to help you out. If this person can communicate some of the things that you do not like about the relationship and how you would like to end the relationship, it will be easier on both of you."

Tips: 60    “Ask a close mutual friend to help you out. If this person can communicate some of the things that you do not like about the relationship and how you would like to end the relationship, it will be easier on both of you.”

LAY OFF Like Corporate AMERICA

Tips: 61 "Short, to the point, and final. Tell her your decision and discuss the next steps. Move out immediately and then just keep a professional relationship as you sort out what to do with the house and what else to take care of."

Tips: 61    “Short, to the point, and final. Tell her your decision and discuss the next steps. Move out immediately and then just keep a professional relationship as you sort out what to do with the house and what else to take care of.”

You’ve Been Hurt in Any Way

Tips: 62 "This is the only reason for breaking up that's totally unconditional. If your sweetie has been hurting you in any way - physically or emotionally - you must get out. Now seriously if you're not sure if what's going on counts as abuse and just break the relationship"

Tips: 62    “This is the only reason for breaking up that’s totally unconditional. If your sweetie has been hurting you in any way – physically or emotionally – you must get out. Now seriously if you’re not sure if what’s going on counts as abuse and just break the relationship”

You’re More Sad than Happy

Tips: 63 "Relationships aren't going to be all roses all the time, but they should bring a little joy to your life. If things are too frustrating or depressing and they're not balanced out by any good moments, get out while you still can."

Tips: 63    “Relationships aren’t going to be all roses all the time, but they should bring a little joy to your life. If things are too frustrating or depressing and they’re not balanced out by any good moments, get out while you still can.”

You Just Feel like it’s Time to Move On

Tips: 64 "You don't need any real, concrete reasons to break up, as long as you feel it in your gut. Just explain to your sweetie that things have changed and that you want to be single again. It won't be easy to do, but it'll be a whole lot better than staying in a relationship long after it's worth your while."

Tips: 64    “You don’t need any real, concrete reasons to break up, as long as you feel it in your gut. Just explain to your sweetie that things have changed and that you want to be single again. It won’t be easy to do, but it’ll be a whole lot better than staying in a relationship long after it’s worth your while.”

Thank the person

Tips: 65 "Be gracious. Part ways respectfully. Try to clear up unresolved issues, but don't prolong the conversation. If the person is angry, don't argue with him or her. It's better not to communicate."

Tips: 65    “Be gracious. Part ways respectfully. Try to clear up unresolved issues, but don’t prolong the conversation. If the person is angry, don’t argue with him or her. It’s better not to communicate.”

Don’t break up on a special day

Tips: 66 "Breaking up with a lover on his birthday, your anniversary, Valentine's Day or any other significant day is cruel. You'll needlessly ruin that day for your ex for long time, maybe forever."

Tips: 66    “Breaking up with a lover on his birthday, your anniversary, Valentine’s Day or any other significant day is cruel. You’ll needlessly ruin that day for your ex for long time, maybe forever.”

When your self-esteem is suffering.

Tips: 67 "If your relationship is demeaning, makes you feel bad about yourself, leaves you feeling like you're not heard, and you're getting more criticism than praise, then it's time to end it. A good relationship makes you feel respected and loved, worthwhile and good about yourself."

Tips: 67    “If your relationship is demeaning, makes you feel bad about yourself, leaves you feeling like you’re not heard, and you’re getting more criticism than praise, then it’s time to end it. A good relationship makes you feel respected and loved, worthwhile and good about yourself.”

When he or she commits an unforgivable act

Tips: 68 "There are single acts so horrid that they should mean the END. If he or she sleeps with your best friend, is disrespectful to your family, consistently criticizes and undermines you, stands you up at the altar, or commits murder, end the relationship with no second chances."

Tips: 68    “There are single acts so horrid that they should mean the END. If he or she sleeps with your best friend, is disrespectful to your family, consistently criticizes and undermines you, stands you up at the altar, or commits murder, end the relationship with no second chances.”

DON’T BE JUST Brutal

Tips: 69    “No techniques or gimmicks are necessary.  When it comes time to breakup, be a man.  Don’t avoid her, or let the relationship drag out.  Sit down with her face to face, and tell her what’s up.  If you’ve been struggling with your feelings, she probably already knows that something is up.  Just be honest (but not brutal).”

 

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