Moisten your lips
Dry lips do not move well together. Just a light brush of your tongue over your lips will be sufficient to moisten them. In general, use lip balm regularly- you never know when someone will go in for the smooch.
Angle your head
If your mouths meet dead-on, your noses will get in the way, and you will not be able to kiss deeply or smoothly. To avoid this, tilt your head slightly to one side. Make sure you do not both tilt your heads to the same side. Studies have shown that most people angle their head to the right.
Close your eyes
As you approach for the kiss, look into your partner’s eyes, but, once you are close to theirs, close your eyes. It can be a bit of a turnoff to be kissing and going cross-eyed. However, you don’t need to always close your eyes; some people enjoy keeping their eyes open and seeing their partner when kissing.
Start with a gentle and soft closed-mouth kiss.
The French kiss is an open-mouth kiss, but do not lunge in with your lips agape like you’re going to eat them; instead, open your lips very slowly. Well, the French kiss is like the poetry of kissing, and before you can be good at it, you have to master the closed-mouth kiss. Even after you have added French kissing to your romantic repertoire, it is usually better to start a kiss with closed lips.
Go Dutch on the decision to French.
Kissing should be a shared decision. You need to have permission to French kiss someone, but when your lips are locked with theirs you may not want to stop and ask, Hey, this is great, but can I put my tongue in your mouth? . Open your lips slowly and just a little during the kiss so that one of your lips is sandwiched between theirs and one of theirs is between yours. As you are locking and re-locking lips, brush your tongue against your partner’s lips ever so slightly. This should make it clear that you want to French kiss. If your partner’s tongue does not respond in like fashion or if they pull away, you will have to save the French kiss for another time when you are both ready.
Explore with your tongue.
If you and your partner seem to be enjoying the open-mouth kiss, slowly try to open your mouth a little bit more and gently push your tongue a little farther into their mouth. The tongue is very sensitive, and the mere act of touching your partner’s tongue with your own will be very pleasant and stimulating for each of you. Do not stick your tongue too far into the mouth, as this can be a big turn-off. Instead, just gently and playfully touch tongues. As a guy, when you are starting to French kiss, touch your tongue to hers very lightly. If she wants more, she will come and get it.
Passionate kisses are good sometimes, but to really enjoy a French kiss, you must take it slow. Do not hurry and instead, take time to explore each other’s mouths
If you’re kissing for an extended period, it’s easy to forget to breathe. Believe it or not, gasping and turning blue is not romantic. Take small breaths through your nose as you kiss. You do not forget how to breathe! As you and your partner grow comfortable with the kiss, you can try breathing through your mouth a little: sharing breaths as well can be romantic (but not everybody likes it).
Mix it up
Kisses are like snowflakes: no two are exactly the same. Once you finally feel comfortable French kissing someone, it is tempting to try to do the same thing every time. Add variety. Sometimes kiss deeper, for example, and other times pay more attention to the lips than the tongue. Hold the kiss longer or shorter and explore the art of kissing. When something feels good for each of you, do not abandon it for the sake of variety.
Use your hands
While you should keep your hands polite, especially on a first kiss, you don’t necessarily want them just dangling at your sides. As a general rule, start with your hands on your partner’s hips and then slowly move them around their back or up to the face and hair. Another turn on for the first kiss is to gently caress their shoulder while you kiss. It shows you are comfortable with him/her. Gently hold your partner’s face with your hands on their cheeks and their neck, or wrap your arms around your partner in an embrace. The most important thing about using your hands is that you respect your partner’s boundaries. Play with their ears or run your fingers through their hair, as this is very stimulating. The second most important thing (much less important than the first) is that your hands should do something. Don’t just let them hang at your sides; it will seem like you’re not into the kiss.
Read your partner’s body language
Everybody kisses a little differently, and each person enjoys different things in a kiss – there is no right way to kiss. What separates good kissers from bad is an ability to read a partner’s body language and be responsive to their partner. Of course if your partner pulls away or seems uncomfortable at any time, understand that you have to slow it down. Good kissing requires give-and-take, so read your partner’s body language and pay attention to clues (sighs or moans) that tell you you’re doing something he or she likes. Let your partner kiss you back, and move with him or her as long as you’re comfortable with what he or she is doing. Listen for cues that tell how much your partner is enjoying a particular kissing maneuver. If you hear a sigh or moan, or they begin kissing you back with increased intensity, realize that they are responding with fervor.
Develop your style
Good French kissing, like good kissing of any kind, requires practice. You will get better as you do it more. In addition, the more practice you have with one person, the more comfortable you will feel kissing them and developing a style that suits both of you.
Talk about it
A lot of people have difficulty talking about intimacy, but open communication is important to all parts of a relationship. If you really like the way your partner kisses you, let them know. If you don’t like something, also let your partner know that, but approach it delicately and compliment them at the same time on something they did that you liked. Even if the kiss goes all wrong, it can still be an intimate affair if you can both laugh about it together!
Freshen your breath
You never want to have bad breath when you are about to kiss someone, whether the kiss is a French kiss or not. Because your mouth will be open in a French kiss, fresh breath is especially important. Practice good dental hygiene. Always have breath mints or mint-flavoured gum if you think there is even so much as a hint of a chance you might kiss.
Teeth are a sensitive subject
You definitely do not want to bump teeth with each other. It is not only awkward, but can hurt. It might inevitably happen at times, so do not worry when it does. You may want to try rubbing the backs or fronts of the teeth of the other person with your tongue. This can create a ticklish feeling that might enhance your kiss. Not everyone enjoys having someone’s tongue rubbing on their teeth, and many do not like to touch teeth with their tongue.
Not everybody likes to…
Not everybody likes to be kissed the same way, so while your former partner might have enjoyed one method of kissing, your new love might not. You need to learn to read signals and adapt to a style that’s comfortable for each of you. This works in reverse, too. Just because someone doesn’t kiss you like you are used to do not mean they are a bad kisser. As long as you are comfortable with the kiss, try to be open-minded, as you just might like the new style.
Be an active partner…
If someone is French kissing you and you want them to do so, do not just sit there but get into the kiss. Reciprocate their actions, and alternate taking the lead on the movements of your tongues and lips. If you are uncomfortable with any part of the kiss, do not be afraid to pull away or gently close your lips. This will give your partner the hint.
There are no rules…
There are no rules for how long you should hold a kiss. If you feel uncomfortable at any time, break the kiss; otherwise, just enjoy it until one or both of you slowly pull apart, usually together. It is extremely romantic to lightly suck your partner’s upper or bottom lip as you part. You might find yourselves returning to kissing, after each of you takes a breath.
Don’t think too much…
Don’t think too much about it…just do it…when it happens you will adapt quick and fast so enjoy it more than think about it.
Brush your teeth
Brush your teeth get a good bath, nicely groomed and clean and fresh, before meeting the other person. There’s nothing worse than kissing the rear end of a garbage truck.
Get into a comfortable position…
You can’t kiss if your back feels like it’s going to break. Suggestion – Sit side by side on a comfy sofa.
Hold your lover…
Hold your lover, firmly but gently: – don’t cause pain. Suggestion would be to hold the shoulders, the neck or gently on the side of the face, one side or both sides.
Move your faces closer
Move your faces closer. Don’t bump noses. Suggestion would be the guy angle his face slightly so you don’t bump noses.
Kiss gently, normal closed lips kissing, and close your eyes. Closing your eyes increases the sensations you feel, and also sets the mood.
Continue kissing gently
Continue kissing gently. Get comfortable with simple closed lips, lip-to-lip kissing before going anywhere else.
If fine till here…
If fine till here, tentatively, slowly and lightly draw your tongue across the other person’s lips.
Chances are from here…
Chances are from here, if the other person lightly parts her tongue, slowly explore the other person’s tongue in a light licking motion.
The tongue has a very…
The tongue has a very sensitive surface, which is why tongue to tongue the essence of is french kissing.
After you’ve tried…
After you’ve tried lightly licking the other person’s tongue, you can try sucking on it, wrestling with it (see if you can hold it to the floor of her mouth) and other things like that.
Explore the other areas…
Explore the other areas of the mouth. Especially the roof of the mouth. Lightly lick, or tickle the area with your tongue.
Don’t bite. Whatever you do, don’t bite. Don’t swing your tongue round and round like a windmill. Explore lightly, don’t drill your way through.
Breathe through your nose…
Breathe through your nose. Breathe through your nose. Saying again, breathe through your nose.
Don’t cause pain…
Follow so far? You can lightly use your hands too, lightly rubbing the other person. Suggestions, along the waist, along the back, the arms, especially the inside of the arm, the neck, maybe running your fingers through her hair. Again, don’t cause pain.
Just the idea of touching your tongue to someone else’s tongue may seem gross. If this is the case, then it’s likely you’re not ready to try it.
The most important…
The most important thing about French kissing, or any type of kissing or contact with someone else, is that YOU feel ready to enjoy it.
Pressured into kissing
There’s nothing worse than being pressured into kissing. If it’s forced you’re not going to enjoy it – so don’t do it.
Have Fresh Breath
Having bad breath is a major turn off for many partners out there. Having good breath is something you should want to have around people in general. It is especially important for a French kiss as you will be exchanging saliva with your partner. Try to not to eat smelly things before a kiss such as garlic or onions. Gum and mints help, but can only do so much. In the event of having smelly food, or in the event of having food that leaves a residue in your mouth, it is best to brush your teeth if you can. If you can’t bush your teeth, try drinking lots of water to clean out your mouth. Then try mints/ gum
The Good, the Bad, and the Ugly
There are some standards of things that are fairly constant across the board that I will go in to depth about. The definition of a French kiss, as defined by wikipedia, is a passionate romantic or sexual kiss in which one participant’s tongue touches the other’s tongue (or lips) and usually enters his/her mouth. Well, I think we all knew that much, so I hope to be able to teach how to French kiss well. We have all heard horror stories about bad kissers and obviously do not want to be labeled as such. Read on to find some do’s and Don’ts of French kissing.
Have soft, moist lips
Chap Stick is something that guys and gals alike can carry on them and use often. Soft lips are enticing where as dry lips is quite the opposite. Would you want to kiss someone with cracked, chapped lips or soft, smooth lips? I thought so. This is something very easy to do! Just carry around a tube with you and apply as need. Voila! Instant kissable lips. Also, keep in mind that most lipsticks can be very sticky and unpleasant to transfer via kiss. They look pretty, yes, but are sure if you want to use lipstick or gloss, that it will not hinder the kiss. Sometimes flavored lip gloss can be fun.
Find Someone to Kiss
Hopefully you have someone in mind before this point, but if it is a spur of the moment urge, find yourself someone you would like to kiss. Make sure they want to be kissed as well, otherwise, the kiss may very well end unpleasantly. You can generally tell if someone wants to be kissed by their body language. If they are willing to be very close to you and touch you, if they have steady eye contact, and if they have been flirting, it is a good bet that they want to be kissed.
Start off Slowly Lean
Start off Slowly Lean in closely to your partner and look into their eyes. If they want to be kissed, kiss them. Tilt your head slightly to the side so that your noses do not bump. Keep eye contact with them until your lips touch, at which point you should close your eyes. It is generally considered rude to kiss with your eyes open and can ruin the intimacy of the moment. Let your lips softly touch and pull away from each other in a kiss. Pause for a moment and gage how the other person is enjoying this kiss. You can pull away slightly to look into their eyes. If they liked your kiss, try another one on them. Maybe let this one last a moment longer or kiss them a couple times. Make sure your kisses are soft.
Kiss to a French kiss…
There isn’t going to be a moment at which you will want to stop and ask for permission, Hey, mind if we swap saliva? So, you will need to test the waters to see if your partner wants to be kissed. When you have decided you want to French kiss, start kissing your partner with a slight open mouth, but keep your tongue inside. This lets your partner know that your mouth is open and that you are up for French kissing. Continue kissing with an open mouth and then, very slightly, touch your partner’s lips with your tongue. If they respond negatively, stop. If they don’t respond, then be patient. They might not be ready yet. If your partner mirrors your actions by opening their mouth, then they are ready to move on.
An open mouth kiss
By now, you and your partner are probably both gingerly touching each other with your tongues. If you are both comfortable, feel free to explore each other’s mouths with your tongues. Keep in mind that it’s always better to do a little bit at a time to get a feel for it. Remember to occasionally pull your tongue into your own mouth so you do not bombard your partner. Small, exploring French kisses are what you want for the moment.
Remember your hands
When kissing, it is very important to remember your hands in relation to your partner’s body. When you begin kissing, keep your hands gently touching your partner. Try gingerly stroking their cheek or running your fingers through their hair. As the kiss progresses, so may your hands. Try running your hand down their back while one hand plays with their hair. Or just embrace them gently. You will find what you are most comfortable with. The important thing is to remember not to let your arms just hang there! Let your hands mirror what your mouth is up to.
Set the scene
Set the scene. Make sure that the mood and time are right.
Relax! Take a deep breath and let go of any tension in your neck and shoulders.
Put your arms…
Put your arms around the person you want to kiss.
Start off with a normal kiss…
Start off with a normal kiss, not too firm, not too aggressive. Closing your eyes is optional.
Using your tongue
In mid kiss, gently open your mouth and softly nudge the other person’s mouth open using your tongue.
Not too aggressively
Again, not too aggressively, move your tongue inside the other person’s mouth and playfully touch their tongue. Read the other person’s body language, if they seem tense or start to pull away, stop what you are doing.
Little more passion
If they open their mouth more or otherwise indicate they like the kiss, keep on doing what you have been only with a little more passion.
Don’t forget to swallow…
As the kissing gets going saliva build up can be a problem, don’t forget to swallow.
Make sure you keep your tongues relaxed but your lips tight (saliva again), you don’t want the kiss to turn messy
Don’t lick them first
Since French Kissing is wetter than other kinds of kissing it is a good idea to start with dry lips, don’t lick them first.
Not as forceful
If one of you have braces you can still French kiss, you just have to be more careful and not as forceful when things get passionate.
When you wearing Braces
If both of you wear braces you can still French kiss, you just have to be very gentle and avoid touching teeth.
French Kissing takes practice, but at least it is fun to practice this one! A French Kiss is an open mouth kiss that involves moving your tongue in and out of your partner’s mouth as they do the same. It is a kind of kiss that requires practice and most people find it sloppy and unpleasant at first.
You lips should be relaxed, your body should be relaxed, and otherwise it will be like kissing a dead fish for the other person. There are only two things involved in a French kiss: your lips and your tongue. That’s it!
Your lips should be slightly parted, not open wide like you’re at the dentist. Open those just far enough, just like you are regularly breathing through your mouth.
Do not have your face dead on to his/hers; otherwise your noses will touch. You want to move your head to one side just enough so your nose is out of the way of theirs. If you think about it then, with your head tilted one way and his the other way, your mouths will not reach dead on. Your mouths will meet at the corner of the other’s mouth.
Express your feelings, emotions and desire
The French kiss is romantic and a great start to foreplay as well. It is a fantastic way for you to express your feelings, emotions and desire.
Showing feelings and passions
Never leave your tongue still or doing nothing, make sure you are constantly using it and showing feelings and passions and finding out what your partner really likes and try and add variety to all your kisses.
Control her mouth
The next time you’re kissing her, hold her face with your hands and kiss her the way you’d like to be kissed. If the fact that you’re taking control doesn’t turn her on, then your sensual tongue will surely do the trick.
Play a little game
Tell her that kissing her gets you so excited and then suggest that you guys switch roles and ask her to kiss you the way you kiss her because you want to know what it feels like. She’ll be more than happy to cater to your request.
Make it last long
There is almost nothing in this world that beats those long, slow, juicy, and very enticing kisses. Your woman will definitely feel your passion through one of those prolonged succulent kissing moments. Kiss her hard and deep.
Don’t start out with tongue action. You want to get her hot and bothered with your lips before you do that. Reason being, shoving your tongue in there usually comes off as pushy and impatient — and that’s not something women want in the bedroom. Do yourself a favor and take your time.
When you’re ready for tongue action, you’ll want to ease into that as well. Do NOT shove your tongue into her mouth and expect a miracle. For one thing, that’s nasty and very, very unsexy. For another, there isn’t a whole lot she can do in return. Your tongue shouldn’t be all the way in her mouth, your tongues should be meeting halfway.
Just because you’ve moved onto tongue action doesn’t mean you stop using your lips. You don’t suddenly open wide like some kind of Bass and anchor your tongue in her mouth. Your tongue should not be staying there the whole time! Withdraw it, kiss a bit more, tease a bit more, and then back to tongue action.
Keep a hand in her hair
This very, very sexy. You may even want to give it a gentle tug now and then.
Tease, tease, tease
Few things make a woman want to be kissed more than *not* being kissed. Bring your face close to hers, trace the line of her jaw with your fingers, or maybe even your lips — but don’t kiss her. Whisper something naughty in her hear, run your hands down the length of her body. Get as close as you can to kissing her without actually doing it. Trust me.
French kissing should be a mutual decision. To know if your partner is willing to do it, gently brush your tongue against your partner’s lips. If your partner reciprocates in the same manner, then this is the sign that they are ready for it.
Observe basic hygiene, like having a shower, if possible, immediately prior to your date, so that you are clean and fresh. Spraying a really good deodorant or using an aftershave might help but there’s no substitute for a good bath. The fresher you look, the more irresistible you will seem to your date.
Groom yourself well
You don’t have to spend a whole lot of money on fancy clothes but try and dress in something that adds to, rather than detracts from, your overall appeal. The more attractive you appear (you don’t have to be blessed with natural good looks, you have to simply know how to make the most of what you have been blessed with), the more inclined your date will be, to get up close and personal!
Set the mood
Unless you and your partner are both into public displays of affection or exhibitionism, kisses – especially first ones, should ideally be in private. If there is some mood music it will probably enhance the feelings and emotions.
Comfort is the key
Make sure there is a comfortable place or seating arrangement to lounge around and relax.
Don’t be tense or overly anxious about how the kiss will go or the kind of impression you will make. If it helps, your partner is probably also equally nervous, so at least one of you being calm would really help.
While not everyone can be lucky enough to have the pearly whites which are often shown in toothpaste commercials, you can at least make use of the products advertised! Before brushing up on your kissing techniques, you’d do well to brush your teeth and make sure your breath is fresh. Eating things with strong odor like onions or garlic, is strictly off limits. Always keep mints or a stick of chewing gum on hand for some last minute damage control.
When you kiss again…
When you kiss again, tenderly hold her face, kissing her exactly the way she likes it. If she isn’t turned on, use your tongue to raise her sensuality.